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GIRL AT WORK
Q. I'm interested in a girl at work, but I don't know how to ask her out?
A. Are we 12 years old? Babe, its the 21st century… you need to grow some balls and just do it. But be prepared before you do. Get to know a few things about her, what she likes to do, where she likes to go on the weekends, what music she’s into. That way when you do ask her out, you don’t look like a complete douche because you can go somewhere she actually really likes and will have fun. And she’ll be pleasantly surprised because you are actually taking a general interest in her. Oh and make sure you look super hot the day you are going to ask her out, that always helps!

IN THE CLUB
Q. When you're in a bar and there are so many other guys trying to chat up this one hot girl, what is it I can do to stand out in the crowd?
A. We love confidence. I didn’t say cockiness… but confidence. And whatever you do don’t come up to us with a lame ass pickup line… like "are you hurt? Because you must’ve fallen from heaven." Because then we will just call you a total tool to our friends, laugh and walk away. Be yourself, come up, introduce yourself… maybe even say something funny. We love a boy with a sense of humor. And don’t stay to long, because if you leave soon enough it’ll leave us wanting more. And maybe you’ll even have a new number by the end of the night. Oh and great style, like looking good will get you brownie points too.

FRIENDS OR LOVERS?
Q. I've been friends with a girl for over 2 years and have fancied her the whole time, but how do I make a move?
A. This is a dangerous situation. If you are getting even a 1% vibe from her, that she is digging you, GO FOR IT!!! Just don’t come on too strong at first, maybe a subtle compliment or even a small romantic kiss, we LOVE romance. BUT if you are unsure… don’t do it! Not only, if you get rejected you will feel like a complete idiot, but you might risk losing your friendship and it wouldn’t be worth it. So just be careful and make sure you know what you’re getting yourself into. Some of the greatest relationships have come out of friendships, BUT some of the greatest failures have also come from trying to cross that line. Bottom line, wouldn’t you rather have her by your side as a friend than nothing at all?

SIGNS OF CHEATING
Q. How do you know when your woman is cheating on you? Are there any signs to look out for?
A. Oh boy. The first thing I would have to say is that, YOU unfortunately are not doing something right. So this is why your lover has had to advert to cheating. Most normal people do not just cheat for no reason. There is something that is missing. Here are a few good signs your woman is cheating:
*The phone rings several times within a week and when you pick it up they hang up... hmm just think who is the man on the other side.
*She starts acting like a teenager who has a crush on the quarterback... you all know this feeling.
*Your girlfriend tells you that she's visiting a friend who is sick. This one is a classic, yes, a shitty one, but it works all the time.
*She says that she loves you, but doesn't act like it. Remember, a person is judged on what they do, not what they say.
*Her general disinterest in anything that the two enjoyed doing together previously, like cuddling on the couch and watching Sunday night football.
*A sudden increase in her monthly expenses and car mileage; a splurge on cosmetics and clothes… I mean come on, us ladies love to go shopping but if it’s getting ridiculous, there’s a problem.
*And I would say this is the most obvious… an increase in overtime at her job without the accompanying increase in her paycheck. What else do I need to say.

But don’t worry, most of these cheating girlfriends are dingbats and she will probably blurt it out to you herself eventually.

STUCK IN THE MIDDLE
Q. I'm stuck in the middle of two girls and don't know what to do? One is my
girlfriend for 2 years and the other is a girl I recently met that I'm crazy about.
A. Here’s the thing, do you REALLY like this new girl or are you just lusting for her and trying to get in her pants. There’s a hardcore difference between love and lust and a lot of men don’t realize what this is. Love is a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection towards someone, and lust is an Intense or unrestrained sexual craving… now do you see the difference? Say you do have a fling with her, and then you mess up this amazing relationship you have with your girlfriend. Is it really worth it? If you’re not happy then get out! But, if you just doing it because of lust, you need to think with your head... and not the one between your legs!!

GIRLFRIEND WORRY
Q. What do I do if I think my girlfriend is spending way too much time with a mutual guy friend?
A. Ok there are 3 types of guy friends:
1. A guy that she’s been friends with for a long time
2. A gay guy friend.
3. A guy that she met through you.

If the type of guy that you are worried about is either option #1 or #2, generally you have nothing to worry about. You’re just being jealous, and sometimes her having been friends with a guy for a long time is a hard situation, but that just comes with the territory. Do you really think your leading lady is only going to have hot lady friends? If you really feel threatened by this one, go out with just the 2 of them sometime and if there’s no awkward flirty vibe from the 2, then you’re fine. As for the gay best friend, normally you are in the clear, except now days a lot of these boys are bisexual and love a lady now and then, so just make sure he’s not that kind. The 3rd option is definitely a problem. I would say there is definitely something going on and get her the hell away from him and you probably need to have a talk with your friend… see how that goes.

FALLING SO FAST
Q. Why do I fall for women so fast? Every time I meet a woman I come on too strong and get really attached and it scares a lot of the women away.
A. Because, we are beautiful and mysterious creatures!!! We know how to seduce a man and are used to having guys throw themselves at us!! But women HATE a clingy man. So here’s what you need to do babe, you need to take a deep breathe and relax. No matter how much you want to call her, or see her, or text her… DON’T. Especially in the beginning stages of the relationship. That just freaks women out. We want a strong confident man by our side, not a clingy whinny one. And if you have us wanting more, by not calling all the time, etc… then the tables will turn and we will probably be the ones attached and clinging to you.